The Cuckold lifestyle as applied to married couples often starts out as a fantasy.
The idea of a white woman (preferably married), wanting to have sex outside her marriage (usually with a black man) with the expressed wish of her husband (usually Caucasian, or of other ethnicity) typically starts out as a fantasy. This fantasy can stem from the husband or from the wife. In the case of venturing into the Cuckold lifestyle, a high percentage of such fantasy comes from the hubby.
One question many husbands have often asked me when bringing up this notion for having such crazed thoughts. My answer is as always no, and this isn’t to quell the hubby’s mixed feelings or to placate his endeavors — it’s the absolute truth.
Argue it however way you want, but what I’ve learned to accept is the mystery behind sex and of how we as humans besides having the power and ability of creating instruments of war are inappropriately baffled by our sexual attractions/peccadilloes, especially when its towards realms we always were thought by society to shy away from.
But getting back to our discussion, the idea of such desires has often existed in the back of a lot of husbands’ minds. For some, it can take months, even years before the hubby declares every thinking such. For others it can go a different way. What could bring about such adventurous stimuli ranges from diverse arenas, pertaining to one’s changing environment, the internet, or from some suggestively enticing experience the likes of which the hubby begins developing an eerie sense of pleasure.
Most hubbies are even clueless as to how or where such fantasies even occurred to them or when. That any decent husband/boyfriend would love to become a voyeur to the thought of his wife being seduced by another man should act as no surprise to anyone.
The point isn’t about how or where as much as the underlying question becomes: ‘Is it possible . . .’ How long does such fantasy remain a fantasy till the moment of gestation when the desire of wanting it become real begin to manifest in a hubby’s mind?
The problem with such fantasies are often weighted or even bogged down by the thought of the hubby not having anyone around to share the notions of his desires, wondering if really he’s the only man on the planet having such weird thoughts and as such should be placed in a rocket and shut out of the earth to the dark side of the moon and left to remain there as an outcast far from infecting the rest of humanity with his delusions. Another aspect is how to pull off such a coupe: how to break it to the wife and get her to see what he is seeing and partake wholeheartedly in it.
It brings up a collage of questions:
“How do I tell her . . .”;
“What do I say to her . . .”
“How will she react to it . . .”
“Let’s say she tells me no, what do I do next . . .”
“How bad do I want this to happen . . .”
The questions are far-reaching. What makes it harder to decode is that it’s often seen specifically from the husband’s point of view, and no one else’s. Not even from the wife.
No wife would readily jump to the conclusion of wanting to go out and fuck another man if her hubby tells her to. That’s not negating the fact that there aren’t wives out there who won’t.
For those spouses bickering and arguing about it, the goal isn’t an easy one to reach. And I’ll make it even worst: there aren’t any set of ‘How To’ rules to make it easier to convince any typical housewife to want to try this. Nothing like that exists, so don’t go believing everything you might happen to read online.
Only two people can try to convince a typical wife to get involved in this, and that’s the hubby and the wannabe lover. The hubby supplies 30% of the effort, and the lover (bull) adds 20% into the mix. The wife gets to provide the other 50% to complete the equation.
The equation sounds dismal even from looking at it, I know. But that’s how it actually is, and don’t let anyone out there fool you. As much as a hubby might throw a bone at the wife and watch to see how well she bites, and as much a bull might try seducing the wife, in the end, the final decision is left for the wife whether she’d love to travel down this road, eyes wide open, with the firm love and trust of her hubby beside her, knowing that nothing about their marriage is ever going to crumble. It’s quite a leap of faith, and for a lot of husbands, much thought should be heaped toward the wife as regarding to whatever change they hope to see happen to her, weighting it against whatever consequences might follow. Knowing that it’ll all be for the better.
Always that it’s all for the better of making her happy. No other thought should be secondary.
Such is when the fantasy is said to come full circle.
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